What is God's mercy

without great mercy, obtaining a saving faith isn't possible

God’s mercy is fantastic. Many want to know how to receive God’s mercy. Well, there are clear ways to obtain much grace as I explain in this article. 

God’s grace, which is synonymous with His mercy, is a wonderful gift from the Holy Spirit sent to help us in our lives for the salvation of our souls.

There are different kinds of grace and so many ways God dispels His mercy upon us; it is truly incomprehensible…but I will do my best to name at least the one’s we should know so we can understand what we need for God to transform us into a life of peace and a beautiful saving faith.

To start, this mercy God gives us is really a two part gift:

  • Helping mercy –help for us in our life so we can better to know, serve and Love Him
  • Forgiving mercy–forgiveness of one sin, all the way to forgiveness of all of our sins

But both kinds of mercy are given so we can live a wonderful life of peace & joy, obtain Eternal Life and grow into a perfect saint.

Everything God does is for this purpose. And if we become one of the few, who come to learn how to accept His gifts (grace) and not reject them, we will have the ultimate gift of Eternal Life.

Why Most Don’t Understand Mercy

Scores of beautiful people flock to God seeking His grace…but most sadly, we aren’t aware that this mercy God gives is really meant to help us grow into a saving faith and then towards becoming a perfect saint. 

Most know God will send His help, so we seek it, but we simply don’t understand that every act of love from God is given to us with the one purpose: 

The purpose of God's mercy: to help transform us so we can better know, serve and love Him for the salvation of our souls--to remove our liking for sin and desire of worldly pleasures, so we can desire God alone and cling to Him and not the world, so to be saved by Him.

Sadly, most of us have been deceived into thinking we are already saved and from not knowing our great need for God’s mercy–lacking humility–we only want God’s help in our lives to obtain what we want, to make our life better or to grow in faith…but not to grow into a SAVING FAITH…not to become a perfect self-sacrificing saint.

Most don’t even know what a saving faith is, and we surely can’t strive to win the crown of Life if we don’t even know what the goal is. To learn more please read, “What are the Requirements of Salvation.”

Many are looking for God’s forgiveness too, but we have been deceived into believing God forgives us if we simply want His forgiveness, which just isn’t true either.

To be forgiven of any sin, we must accept God’s forgiveness, which is only done if we grow in faith to have TRUE sorrow for that sin. And if we want to be forgiven of all of our sins, so to be saved by Jesus, we need enough of God’s helping mercy to grow into a faith which has true contrition for each and every sin we have ever committed–that hates our sins enough we would rather suffer death than sin the slightest offence against God (truly hates our sins), and as the saints teach gaining that kind of faith is hard to acquire. We need much mercy! To learn more please read the articles, “What is True Sorrow?” and “Can I Be Forgiven of Some Sins but Not All of Them?”

If we don’t know this, we will approach God feeling some kind of sorry or guilt for sinning, thinking that is enough to be forgiven, when we still haven’t allowed God’s helping grace to give us a truly contrite heart. Then we leave confession feeling God’s love for us in the sacrament, but we don’t really understand what that is. Being confused, we believe we are forgiven, but we only felt His mercy, which was most likely His helping/transforming grace…not saving grace. And for many, even when we feel God’s love, we never actually let it penetrate into our souls and reject it immediately or shortly afterwards. To learn more please read, “How Can Bad Confessions Damn Us.”

Without accepting God’s grace (help) to GROW in contrition (sorrow), from some faith into a saving faith, we simply won’t be forgiven–or saved. This is the truth. This is why we need Jesus, Our Savior, to save us…

Our Savior is to transform our hardened hearts into soft hearts that can accept His forgiving saving mercy for the salvation of our souls.

But if we don’t approach God correctly, with much humility and Fear of the Lord (fear of sin and its consequences), knowing our true misery and having a horror of sin, we won’t be changed enough and reject Life.

Oh, we might not like this reality, so the devil will convince us that it simply isn’t true…that salvation is much easier to obtain, that most are really in Heaven, but that just isn’t the truth. Some through wishful thinking might even mis-translate our prayers, The Word and do all sorts of things so to not believe this is so.

Yet, that thinking only leads to a lukewarm life of not being concerned with our salvation, which doesn’t move us to correctly seek God’s mercy so we can grow in faith to perfectly love Him but allows us to remain blind and untransformed or not transformed enough, and we reject Him for sin. Tragic!

We must come to correctly know of God’s mercy, so we can approach Him with the HUMILITY we need to embrace His gifts He has waiting for us, or we will become amoung the vast number of souls who die (go to Hell) from not even knowing how much we needed Jesus’ mercy to save us but sadly lied to ourselves saying we wanted His mercy, when we only rejected it…from not truly knowing how miserable of a sinner we really are. Run to God, He is waiting to save us.

“If sinners knew My mercy, they would not perish in such great numbers.” 

–Jesus to St. Faustina

Our Seed Won’t Grow

Yes, even though God sends His mercy to help us, most either reject it or we simply become one of those poorly growing seeds planted on rocky ground or among thorns that never grows or only grows some what…never into a mature true saving belief in Christ.

Since we live in the time of such great darkness, most have been greatly deceived as to The Way. Therefore, we haven’t cultivated our ground with The Truth. Yes, few, even among those who consider themselves very faithful, have a correct understand of what God’s mercy really is and its purpose.

Sadly, from their misguidance, most of God’s children are being led deeper and deeper into a life of lukewarmness…never gaining rich soil–from hearing The Truth–that can produce a saving faith. It is an unfathomable tragedy which crushes God’s Heart.

So we don’t die from a lack of nutrients in our soil, lets begin by learning what the vastness of God’s mercy really is and gain some nourishment, so we can embrace God’s mercy when He sends it and grow wonderfully in faith, yielding fruit thirty, sixty, or a hundredfold–growing into an exact image of Christ.

How Does God Love Us?

There are many ways God loves us through His grace. From God’s great love for us, Jesus of course died to give us sanctifying (saving) forgiving grace that allows us into Heaven, which we received at our baptism. But that isn’t it, He sent us Help–His Holy Spirit–the Paraclete through actual (helping) grace and taught us, through His Word, how to follow Him so we can grow in our faith–soften our hearts–to accept and keep that saving grace in our souls.

From His helping grace (our strength) and His directions (given from His mercy), we can obtain a mature [saving faith] in Christ” (Colossians 1:28) that can accept and keep His amazing gift of saving grace in our souls, because without True belief in Jesus, we will still reject saving mercy for sin.

When we receive some of God’s grace and finally hear God calling us to holiness–not just to be a “good” Christian but when we finally hear God calling us to become a real perfect self-sacrificing saint, that sincerely wants to leave all sin and worldly pleasures to follow Christ, we can use that grace to change our life and follow Jesus correctly to Heaven so we may attain the goal of [your] faith, the salvation of your souls” (1 Peter 1:9).

If we don’t want to become perfect, then what sins and worldly treasure do we want to keep? Ahh, those are the sins and things we love in which we will reject God’s saving mercy for. Oh, we must hear God calling us to leave all of our sins and everything of this world that we long for to bring us happiness. We can do this, with the Help of Thy Grace! Believe! To learn more please read, “How to Reject the Word and Live for Heaven.”

“Let us confidently approach the throne of grace to receive mercy [forgiveness] and to find grace for timely help [to grow in faith]” (Hebrews 4:16).

God’s Different Forms of Grace:

  • Sanctifying Grace: Sanctifying grace is also know as saving grace or being in the state of grace (if that grace is in our souls). This is the grace Jesus died to give us that we received for the first time at our Baptism which opened up the gates of Heaven and gave us perfect forgiveness of our sins and even removed the punishment for our sins. But from the consequences of original sin, we quickly lost this grace the first time we gained full knowledge of right from wrong and desired (longed for and/or didn’t want to stop) our first sin. Now, we need Our Savior to restore this grace so to forgive us of all of our trespasses committed after baptism and help us atone for our sins committed after baptism too, which is done by changing our life so to following Him to a saving faith. To the surprise of many, we aren’t always in the “state of grace” just because we say we believe in Jesus or go to confession or even avoid the regular “mortal sins.” Sins that reject God’s saving mercy are much more than most understand. To learn more please read the article, “What are the Mortal Sins.” We must grow into a saving faith and “few” as The Word says even gain this kind of faith, since desiring sin (longing for a sins and/or not doing what is necessary to amend any sin and habitually committing it) causes us to not be able to truly repent. Then we lack true sorrow for offending God–which is an abomination of love and rejects saving grace. “He is a scoffer, not a penitent [not someone sorry for their sins], who commits what he repented of. Nor is he cleansed [forgiven] who weeps for his sins, yet does not forsake [stop] them.” (St. Isadore of Seville, Doctor of the Church). This repeating of our sins over and over again isn’t just fine, as the deceiver has tricked us into believing, that proves our desire/love for that sin; it is deadly. To regain this sanctifying grace we need to be saved, we must implore God for much help to grow into a saving faith, to leave everything we long for weather it be sins or worldly pleasures (anything that isn’t to know, serve or love God) because without this grace in our soul, at the moment of death, we can’t obtain Eternal Life.
  • Actual Grace: Actual Grace, also known as helping grace, is the grace God gives us to help us “grow into salvation [a saving faith]” (1 Peter 2:2) so we can truly hate our sins and embrace God’s saving grace.Actual grace transforms us from some faith in Christ, into a saving faith that truly hates every sin and is truly sorry for all the sins we do commit because we can’t bear to offend God. It take much grace to soften a hard heart into a truly humble contrite one who can accept forgiving saving mercy since we have made so much of the world–sins and non-sinful things–what we run to for happiness (our idols). Therefore, we must spend our life, running to God daily, learning and changing so we can gain much actual grace to be saved by Jesus.
  • Gratuitous Grace: Gratuitous Grace are the gifts/talents God gives us for us to use for His service in the salvation of souls. 
  • Habitual Grace: Habitual grace allows us to keep saving grace constantly (habitually) present within us. This grace only takes effect if we don’t reject it. Habitual grace is present when a soul has finally grown into a saving faith and has received so much grace from God, they can constantly remain in the state of grace from possessing a continuous perfect contrition: a hatred for sin so great and a continuous resolve to never sin again so true, because we can’t bear offending our Beloved Lord and would rather suffer any injury than offend God by the smallest offence.
    Outside of seeking perfection (to become full of grace and not be able to choose to sin), obtaining habitual grace–the grace that saves–is the ultimate goal in life, since not only does it assure us of salvation upon death, but also as long as this grace is present, our prayers, fasting, works of mercy, etc. they can finally help us atone (pay the price) for our sins and most wonderfully help us grow in perfect love of God which of course makes us saints upon our death.
    God promised to St. Gertrude the Great, that anyone who has ever had habitual grace within them–who was able to maintain being in the state of grace–outside of the instant it was received, and did a single truly good act, will most certainly have Eternal Life. This is true.


    “When I behold anyone in his agony [dying] who has thought of Me with pleasure, or who has performed any works deserving of reward [something truly good done while being in the state of grace], I appear to him at the moment of death with a countenance so full of love and mercy, that he repents from his inmost heart for having ever offended Me, and he is saved by this repentance” (Jesus to St. Gertrude the Great).

    But like saints have said…this is rare, so please don’t be deceived and live a lukewarm life thinking we are surely saved or we will lose it all. Actually, since we can’t read our souls, we will never know what kind of state of grace our souls are in (unless God gives us a special gift of that knowledge)…so always strive to increase our fear of sin and love of God.

  • Consummate Grace: Consummate grace is the final grace acquired when we finally arise to perfect love of God (full of grace not able to sin any more). This is the ultimate goal for everyone’s life in which some blessed saints have acquired.

All the grace we need to amend our ways, become saved and even grow into a perfect saint is waiting for us, but tragically most of us reject so much of God’s love that we never even grow into even a saving faith. This must change.

How Do We Reject God?

We reject God’s mercy–the help He sends–for several reasons:

  • ask for His help (grace) for the wrong reasons,
  • really desire sin and not God,
  • want to take love from God and have no or little desire to truly love Him in return (lack a desire to change our lives and stop sinning with one or many sins).

Much of the time we go to God and want help, even in His sacraments, where grace is flowing, but we approach God for selfish reasons and receive no grace. While other times, we will run to God for grace, receive some of it but it vanishes quickly because we don’t want to amend then next sin God seeks for us to amend, on our steps towards perfection.

Then we wind up rejecting God’s help for that sin. Every time we seek to abuse God’s mercy–by wanting His help, without wanting to truly love Him (not wanting to stop sinning)–we cause Our Most Tender Loving Lord’s Heart insurmountable anguish. We don’t want to do this.

Our goal is to utilize all of the help (grace) God gives us so we can come to truly hate all of our sins that are killing us, and grow in true love of God with true sorrow for our sins against Him. Then continue to grow into a saint and then perfection (perfect love of God) so we can have a great life of peace on earth and for Eternal Life.

We Can’t Make God Send Grace

With that said, as confusing as this sounds, there isn’t anything we can do to gain God’s grace…now, I know that just doesn’t make scene, especially since I just said there are so many ways God dispels His grace. Plus, throughout this entire website I speak about the different ways to accept God’s grace. 

What I mean is, we can do bounds of things that can potentially obtain us grace from God, but nothing we do can “force” God to give us His grace. Fortunately, God loves sending us grace, but if He wants to abstain in sending it, we can’t make Him send it.

If we pray, attend the Mass and receive the sacraments, fast, give alms (donate money), do works of mercy, sacrifice and suffer for souls and think for a moment we “deserve” or even expect God’s mercy from our actions, we will be lucky if God sends us any grace that we can accept.

God sends His grace to us out of His love and mercy towards us…not because we deserve it. Sure He likes to reward our efforts to love Him, but if we only knew how imperfect everything we do is, we would clearly see how we deserve nothing. Furthermore, if we think we can manipulate God, oh, how foolish are we!

Without Much Humility, We Won’t Receive Much Grace

There is one means (outside of baptism) that we receive God’s transforming grace (actual or saving) and that is by means of humility. The more humility, the more grace.

We must gain humility by:

  • understanding of our great sinfulness,
  • knowing our true need for mercy (help),
  • comprehending how we don’t “deserve” anything from God since we are such great sinners.

If we have a tiny bit of humility, we can accept a tiny bit of grace. If we have great humility our hearts are open and can accept great grace. To be saved we need GREAT GRACE.

However, we need more than just humility to obtain grace…we need a hatred for our sins. Without much contrition and humility combined, we reject much grace. To learn more please read, “How Can I Gain Humility.”

Hearts that are stone–full of pride–can’t accept grace. They are’t absorbent. Therefore, the more humble we become, the more grace (God’s help) we will receive. And if we become perfectly humble, perfectly knowing our littleness/nothingness–we will obtain all of God’s grace and become perfect just like St. Therese of Lisieux was able to achieve.

Therefore, we must grow in much humility so we can seek His mercy from our nothingness, since nothing we do is deserving of His love because all we do is tainted with some amount of self-love (still rejects perfect love from the sin that still lives within). If we allow our pride to get in the way and then we “presume” upon His mercy from our actions to send us grace, thinking we will certainly obtain grace by all of the “good” we do, we won’t receive much, if any help from God at all (depending upon our humility), and never obtain the saving faith we need.

“Oh, Lord from your mercy please look with pity on your wretched servants and if You will, bless us with the help we need to love you more perfectly for we are so weak and in great need of your assistance,” needs to be our plea to God for assistance.

Why do we cry out to God for help? So God can make our lives better on earth. Sure God’s help, will benefit our lives on earth, but that shouldn’t be our driving motive of our plea. We should cry out to God to help us so we can KNOW, SERVE and LOVE HIM more perfectly for the salvation of souls. We need to want God’s help so we can LOVE HIM. That should be the motive of literally every thought, word and deed.

We Can’t Control God
If God from His mercy or justice wills to remove any of our grace, it will be gone too. We can’t control God. God gives the gift and most certainly can take it away if He wishes. Fortunately, God wants to give us grace, and the removal of our grace is from our own rejection. But God doesn’t need to constantly tolerate our blatant rejection of Him and can remove His help from us if He wills.

Sometimes we pray and God doesn’t seem to respond with grace. There are two reasons for that…sometimes it is from our rejection of it and sometimes from God having a greater plan through our patient pursuit of grace.  for the greater good (His perfect plan) in the future. Sometimes we hope for grace, like from our prayers, fasts, works and sacrifices, but even if God doesn’t chose to send us grace like we hoped, it is all good. He might be saving it up so we will grow in trust in Him or He might be trying to teach us to look for our sins that is refusing the grace…oh there are many reasons why God doesn’t respond to our plea as we desire, but if we trust in Him, we will look for His guidance and grow in faith and trust. We simply don’t know God’s perfect good plan for our souls. But with that said, our grace is received based on the desires of our heart to accept it whenever God wills to send it.

Without receiving much of God’s mercy (grace) there isn’t hope for Eternal Life since it takes much grace to truly hate all of our sins. Giving us this actual (helping) grace is just one of the ways God shows His love for us by helping us in our daily lives so we can grow in faith to come to believe in Him with a SAVING FAITH–a faith so great we can’t bear offending Him (has true sorrow) and doesn’t fear what God allows to happen, but trusts in God’s will as perfect for us, believing it guides us to Heaven.

God’s love for us is so magnificent. It is an unfathomable love; a love we simply could never fully comprehend the depths of its beauty. Even in our degraded misery, He helps us poor undeserving souls in innumerable ways to assist in obtaining the goal of Eternal Life with Him. Oh, what love! His patience with us is simply immeasurable.

God’s love is incredible. Truly we only need one moment, one act of true love and God floods us with enough grace to bring true contrition upon our souls. But be watchful, since no act we do is meriting of reward if it is done outside of being in the state of grace, and since we all loose/reject God’s sanctifying grace once after our baptism, we obtain “full knowledge” of right from wrong and then desire our first sin–not truly hating nor being truly resolved to stop–which for most was at a young age. We need to spend our entire life growing in faith into the “new man” God commands of us.

Therefore we must obtain habitual grace (being constantly in the state of grace) to have this incredible merciful blessing. But as God the Father has told St. Catherine of Sienna, since the death of His Son, we are now going from bad to worse, inflicting greater injuries upon injuries to God by accepting His sanctifying grace and then abusing Him by ignoring much of His law and not even really trying to love Him, “saying” we love Him with words, thinking we are saved by His grace, when from our lack of true love, from our pride, we have rejected it.

“And I wish you to know, My daughter, that, although I have re-created and restored to the life of grace, the human race, through the Blood of My only-begotten Son, as I have said, men are not grateful, but, going from bad to worse, and from guilt to guilt, even persecuting Me with many injuries, taking so little account of the graces which I have given them, and continue to give them ” (God the Father to St. Catherine of Sienna).

The devil has us proudfully professing we are in the state of grace even though we can’t read our souls. We suffer such great blindness and can’t even see our misery. Therefore, we should never assume anything and allow the evil one cause us to think this habitual grace has been welcomed into our souls giving us the presumption of salvation and making us complacent in our sinful ways and lukewarm in our faith. But rather understanding the wonderful mercy God gives those who truly love Him (even for a moment), does lead us to great hope for those who are striving to walk in the Way of the Cross towards Life. Therefore, always aspire to grow in our detestation for sin and true love for God.

However so very few obtain this kind of faith. Unless perfect contrition remains consistent in our souls, from accepting habitual grace, by being constantly mortified over offending God (have true fear of the Lord), we lose saving grace instantly after we have received it. That is because most of us still, at least, have an attachment to our own will (self-love), if not an attachment to many other sins too, and the moment our contrition subsides our self-love rejects God’s saving mercy and we loose our state of grace. However, if someone from such a great love for God, can accept habitual grace and maintain it long enough to do even the smallest single act of true love while being in this state, as an act of great mercy, God will send them so much grace upon their death. As a reward for the smallest act of true love, God will send them immense grace that they will be able to possess perfect contrition at the moment of their death for all of their sins ever committed and accept His sanctifying grace and be saved. Wow! What Mercy!

No Fear of the Lord–We Reject Mercy
I could spend all day speaking about God’s unfathomable mercy He gives to us over and over again as He strives to guide us to a life of joy and Salvation, but God’s saving mercy DOES NOTHING for the soul that doesn’t have “FEAR OF THE LORD.” Why should I speak about all of the help God gives us if we will only refuse it from a lack of fear of the Lord–a lack of faith. That would be senseless. If I could scream this to others, so they would understand this, in order to save their souls, I would. I can’t express how absolutely necessary it is to have “fear of the Lord: a great fear of sin from understanding its horrid consequences. We need a fear so great we would do all in our power to strive to never offend God again. Without it we have no true humility, no true sorrow, and no true love for God and it IT IS IMPOSSIBLE to receive God’s saving mercy!

The world is caught so strongly in the devils trap using misguided love to try to help others, as we talk about how God’s mercy saves us when we are still rejecting it; it is absolutely tragic. I cry many an hour for souls that are being lost (misled) by people only speaking about God’s mercy and never telling them how to obtain it or how it is rejected. They never mention God’s justice and the consequence of sin. God is love and love is mercy and justice combined. Without being terrified of our sins and what it does to God and ourselves, all is lost. “Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 9:10 ), without it we are destined to Hell for eternity. If we only speak of mercy and don’t combine it with fear of sin and its real consequences, and how God’s mercy is there to help us avoid the consequences of sin…it leads us way from sins, we are deceiving others and only leading them to their doom. If we don’t speak the truth, we are not loving others but hurting them. Every time mercy is mentioned it needs to be qualified with the truth (justice) especially today since so few actually know what mercy it. Yet, they think it will obtain them heaven. Some think mercy is taking God’ help and forgiveness. But mercy can’t be taken from God. Mercy is given and received only. We can’t take it.

We accept God’s saving mercy ONLY if our hearts are properly disposed from having such a great fear of the Lord (fear of sin) that this fear detests every one of its sins so perfectly, from having wonderful true self-knowledge of our misery that our hearts can finally have true sorrow for our sins out of great love for God. Without true sorrow for our life time of sins from great fear of the Lord, WE REJECT GOD’S SAVING MERCY. We can pray billions of prayers and have bounds of devotions, but if we pray them with a heart of pride, they are worthless.

If we really want to love someone, give them the gift of fear of the Lord…without it we are dead. What is more important than that?