Most don’t realize when we suffer from sexual immorality, like most do, it is what’s preventing us from growing correctly in our faith towards a life of wonderful peace. 

This is a huge problem as many can’t obtain a life of peace or even Eternal Life because of this horribly blinding debilitating sin which is destroying our lives.

It doesn’t matter how great or little our sexual desire is or how attracted we are to someone, we must rid ALL lust, vanity, immorality and impurity from our thoughts, words and actions, and only use our desire/attraction according to God’s will for His honor and glory, not for our personal sexual gratification. 

God wants to send us the grace so we can “renounce impiety [ungodliness] and worldly passions, and in the present age to live lives that are self-controlled, upright, and godly” (Titus 2:132), but sadly, self-control doesn’t seem to be what most of us are seeking God’s mercy to acquire…as sexual immorality has grown out of control. Most justify it as not even sinful. But if we don’t change, we will reject it all.

“Now the works of the flesh are obvious: immorality [sexual relations between unmarried people, homosexuality, and bestiality], impurity [watching, wearing, doing sexually stimulating things for self-pleasure, not God’s honor and glory], licentiousness [lacking sexual self control]…I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21).

Please understand it isn’t just great sexual immorality that kills…even slight habitual impure choices destroys our souls too…especially if it lives hidden with in us because we just don’t want to see our sinfulness (love our sins).

From God’s love for us–His magnificent Word–which guides us to Heaven, Our Lord tells us clearly over and over and over again that we can’t have any immorality or impurity among us to be welcomed into Eternal Paradise. Yet, most are greatly suffering from this devastating sin in some degree or another.

“Immorality or any impurity…must not even be mentioned [in the slightest way] among you, as is fitting among holy ones…Be sure of this, that no immoral or impure [person]…has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ” (Ephesians 5:5).

What a great Bible verse to meditate on after we have committed immorality to help us understand the great consequences of this sin, so to motive us to change!

Our Lady told us the sins of the flesh are the most common sins that damn us (keep us from growing in faith into a saving faith). “

Preaching how to remove our immorality needs to take precedence, especially since it places a great stumbling block towards any true progress in faith if we are plagued horribly with these sins.

If we don’t remove our habitual immorality–all of it–we will surely die.

“Do not be deceived; neither fornicators [those who engage in sex outside of marriage] nor idolaters [those who long for any of the world’s pleasures and not God for joy] nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes nor sodomites [homosexuals] nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).

Different Kinds of Immorality

Immorality comes in many forms as I list below, but some of the most common forms of impurity most don’t even recognize as sinful, but it can kill.

Oh, we can wear the tight pants or check out all of the pretty girls and think there is nothing wrong with that, but truly those are forms of sexual immorality. That isn’t pure nor done for God’s honor and glory…it is sinful. Please don’t be deceived. The devil doesn’t want us to see the reality of our misery so we can die in our sins.

If we could see the consequences of doing those things and/or understand the intentions as to why we do them, we would clearly see they are immoral (the saints wouldn’t do them as they aren’t pure or for God’s honor and glory), but the devil convinces us other wise so to own our souls. 

Immorality is much more than just pornography and fornication (sexual relations before marriage), and yet, we must be free of all of it, if we don’t love those sins. 

Remember, God’s forgiving saving mercy is only accepted into our souls if we are truly sorry for all our sins (have no liking for them), and we aren’t TRULY sorry for any sin if we continue to repeat it, when God’s transforming mercy is waiting to take it away. 

If we really want God’s mercy (help), it is waiting to take away our habitual sins. Run to Him. He loves us. He wants us in Heaven.

There is a real reason why the saints don’t do such things. We might not have the grace to understand why, but emulate the saints; they know the way to Heaven. 

“Certain fashions are going to be introduced that will offend Our Lord very greatly and those who serve God should not follow them.”

–Our Lady of Fatima

But that isn’t it, there is much, much more.

Our Hideous Soul

There is nothing more harmful to the faith than someone proclaiming they love God, as they pray, spread the good news and do many good works, but hidden within, they are utterly defiled from immorality.

The immoral person simply can’t see–not really see-since the devil has us in his trap. From our pride, we believe we are doing well enough from the “good” we do or the blessings God gives us. Or perhaps, we convince ourselves that “we are just sinners” so to justify our sinfulness and not work hard and seek God’s mercy to amend our ways…but reality is, we are dead. 

Oh, the few who bear some humility, might even know our behavior isn’t proper (or at least some of it) and what to change, but truly if we really knew, we would die of horror.

The sexually immoral’s soul is grotesque in the eyes of God. Think I’m being harsh. Oh, think not.

“The [once] redeemed soul of man has become like the most ugly and shameless frog, jumping in its arrogance and living in filth through its sensuality…[The soul] is namely like the most vile frog, full of filthiness and lust, fostered in the chest of the devil…When his soul [once blessed by Me] begins to separate from the body, she flies straightaway to the devil…she finds a greater pleasure in the devil.

The voice of her prayer [to Me] is like the voice of the frog, and her appearance is abominable and hideous in my sight. Her ears will never hear my joy, and her poisoned senses will never feel my Divinity. [Change My hideous children, hear my plea for you to repent, accept My grace and change before your hour comes].

–Jesus to St. Bridget of Sweden

Just because practically everyone is suffering from this sin, and its horror is hardly ever preached, surely doesn’t remove its horrific consequences. I can not express how damaging the slightest impurity is. But most aren’t slightly impure, no…if we were only honest with ourselves, we would see we are suffering greatly from this very addicting sin.

Oh, the devil sneaks into us with slight immorality, but if left ignored and uncontrolled it grows and grows…out of control creating unfathomable blindness and devastating consequences, as it fantastically increases other sins (from our rejection of grace), most of which we will be blind to.

The immoral simply can’t see…their eyes are turned to the flesh, not God. It is just horrible.

Many of us are so corrupted with this evil, that our sexuality is all distorted. As as result, our hearts don’t know how to correctly love others. We don’t long for God, but we long and long for someone or anything to satisfy our sexual desires. Some of us can’t even look at an attractive person without falling into temptation and sinking into much sin.

“Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul. ” CCC # 2332

Immorality Grows

Even though, all immorality is  wrongdoing, most of it is deadly (a mortal sin).

The first step in developing a life with sexual immorality is through wanting to be attractive (sexually attractive) and if left to brew and fester it can grow all the way into perverted sexual acts being performed forcefully upon another or even an animal.

Sadly, we practically indoctrinate our children with the desire to be attractive. From the time they are born, we are doting over how cute they are and when their sexuality develops, if we don’t tell them how to DISCIPLINE THEMSELVES and control their sexual desires (as they are only for marriage/procreation), it sadly converts them into wanting to be sexually attractive so to boost their pride, sense of value and satisfy their sexual desire.

Then, if they follow the world, immorality only grows and grows.

Some can have self-restraint and place limits on the sins they are willing to commit, but many live unrestrained lives and only seek to satisfy an ever growing sexual desire.

Few, very few, live lives seeking true perfect purity; most simply disregard God’s law.

“For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness. Therefore, whoever disregards this, disregards not a human being but God, who [also] gives his holy Spirit to you [to save us, which we will reject by impurity]” (1 Thessalonians 4:7).

Different Degrees of Immorality

With sexual immorality there are various degrees of evil. Like I said, the first step is wanting to be attractive and then it grows more severe from there.

Below is a chart of the typical growth pattern of immorality:

Attraction is Dynamic – with seeking marriage or not

When we think of the first form of immorality that of “wanting to be attractive,” we can see there are many ways in which we seek to be attractive.

Now, if we are seeking a spouse, we want to be seen as attractive to someone (in the right way) so someone will find us to be a suitable partner and can grow to love us, which is morally fine, as long as the qualities of attraction we are displaying are pure.

God created us to be attracted to one another, so we will want to marry and procreate for His honor and glory. However, most don’t seek to be attractive so to find and please a spouse and God through purity but rather sin.

Having a physical attraction to someone is natural and fine as long as it is pure. However, even if we are seeking a spouse, most don’t just want to be attractive (the pure way), we want to be sexy, not modest. We want to flaunt our bodies, which builds lust, not love. Frankly, many want to be lusted over and/or lustful…as the devil has made that very satisfying.

And if we aren’t physically attractive and can’t diet, exercise, change our clothes, wear makeup, or do something to improve our looks…we will spend our time trying to make some other aspect of ourselves attractive so to build up our pride and win the affection of another. But most of the time the qualities we are promoting as desirable are all of the world.

Perhaps we’ll get a nice car, house, or flaunt our successful career, athletic talent, intellect, being generous and/or even fun. Oh, the things we do or try to become desired.

But in God’s plan, it isn’t so much about the beauty on the outside that we should be most attracted to, or the successful career, or even the fun personality…it should be the godly character that really draws us to someone.

“Similarly, [too,] women should adorn themselves with proper conduct, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hairstyles and gold ornaments, or pearls, or expensive clothes, but rather, as befits women who profess reverence for God, with good deeds” (1 Timothy 2:9-10).

We are supposed to strive to be attractive in our purity and holiness so the person we marry will help us grow into a saving faith and not draw us more into lust and the world.

What else does The Word say?

“This is the will of God, your holiness: that you refrain from immorality, that each of you know how to acquire a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion as do the Gentiles who do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4).

Also, in Tobias 3, beautiful Sarah was married to seven husbands, in which the Lord allowed to die, because they wanted her from lust. Only the last husband, Tobiah, as brave and pure as he was did God allow to live since he took her out of purity/love.

“She [Sarah] had been given in marriage to seven husbands, but the wicked demon Asmodeus kept killing them off before they could have intercourse with her, as is prescribed for wives….[Angel Rephael told Tobiah] you, more than anyone else, have the right to marry his daughter…I too am afraid of this demon [Tobiath replied]…[Raphael said] when you are about to have intercourse with her, both of you must first get up to pray…When Tobiah heard Raphael’s words that she was his kinswoman, and of the lineage of his ancestral house, he loved her deeply, and his heart was truly set on her [not from lust but for noble reasons to fulfill God’s will]” (Tobias 3:8-18).

This intercourse between husband and wife, for it to be pure, must be done from prayer seeking God’s will…not to use one’s spouse to satisfy one’s sexual desires for self-pleasure. This is terribly hard to understand since most think God give man a wife to satisfy his sexual appetite, but that simply isn’t true. A man is to treasure his wife not use her. Husband and wife are to have intercourse to help move themselves towards sanctity. Spouses are supposed to help each other loose their lust and desires for the world…not long more and more for them and satisfy every craving. To learn more please read, “God’s Plan of Family and Friends.” 

“[St. Bridget asked] Why did you give men and women the seed of intercourse and a sexual nature, if the seed is not to be spilled according to the carnal appetite [sexual desire]?”…”I gave them the seed of intercourse so that it might germinate at the right place [from prayer seeking God’s will] and in the right way [through purity] and bear fruit [children] for a just and rational cause [God’s honor and glory].” 

–Jesus to St. Bridget

Attraction Sickness – the Beginning

The problem with wanting to be attractive, for the wrong reasons, goes well beyond just seeking a spouse. People want to be seen as attractive by everyone…especially those we are attracted too or who we feel are attracted to us. If we aren’t doing it to boost our pride, we are doing it to satisfy our sexual desire or a little of both.

This is where the major growth in immorality takes place. But how did we get this way?

Lets look at an innocent child who is beginning to develop its sexuality. When a child was innocent from such desires, they were fine with their parents seeing them naked. Then, when their sexuality began to develop, what was shameless, becomes shameful, and they want their privacy.

This desire to hide and live modest with their bodies and bodily changes, in this world of sin, is pure and good. However, few keep this desire, since as we mature, we are tempted to follow the world.

Sadly, most are not guided correctly so to keep that beautiful desire for purity. Frankly, it is belittled as immature and even seen as wrong. And since the youth are looking to mature, we wind up following the evil one and mature with the devil as our guide, especially since there is such a great lack of correct examples.

This “love your body…flaunt it” society we live in is the exact opposite of saintly behavior that leads to Life. Tragically, so many are stuck living that way of life, trying to find happiness with ourselves; we are lost. 

Some don’t “love” our body shape or appearance, but still want to flaunt ourselves. Since we don’t think we have anything that can be flaunted–either we are old or out of shape or unattractive–we are stuck living in jealously wishing we could do what others do and as a result, we are just as lost.

However, even if we don’t “flaunt” our bodies or even think we want to flaunt, most are still stuck in this trap of immorality too, we just don’t see it. 

A Little Bit of Immorality is Blinding Too

What happens is, we are so used to covering our sins, we don’t see most of our immorality. We might think we only have a little or none at all, but boy or boy, God knows we have much more than we are willing to admit. This is especially true if we don’t do the greatly immoral things like: fornication (sex before marriage), pornography, dressing immodestly, adultery, etc.

Sadly, someone who thinks they are so much better than the seemingly greatly immoral person, can very well be even more blind and guilty than those who seem so much worse than we are. form ofthemsavisaaHe lov